1 Corinthians 10:23 says, “You say, “I am allowed to do anything”—but not everything is good for you. You say, “I am allowed to do anything”—but not everything is beneficial.” (NLT)
It seems as though the 2 extremes camps of Christianity like to dice up or ignore this verse. You have the liberal liberty focussed who are happy to say “I am allowed to do anything” and use the fact that the Law is not what saves. On the flip side you have the legalist who either forgets the verse entirely or just says “I’d rather be safe than sorry” and does nothing because it might not be good for them.
The real question for me is always, “Yes you can, but should you?” That applies to a myriad of situations, including personal relationships, home life, work, finances, parenting, driving, weight loss, etc. I am not sure there is a place in your life you can’t find this question may be applied. You have the right to a bunch of things – a right to be mad, a right to want _____, a right to rationalize your right for almost anything (others love to egg us on to by saying “You deserve that!”) – but that doesn’t always mean you should.
What side of the equation do you lean towards? When it comes to pleasing God, obeying God, and responding to His will, do you pick one side or the other? Or, better yet, do you realize that you have the freedom to, but submit to the authority of the God and open every area of your life to responding to what He reveals to you specifically? Is everything on the table or is only what God allows for you in each area you put in front of Him; eager to do His will and open to doing what you don’t want to?
Being allowed isn’t all that matters.