Every Single Man’s Battle by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker – What you find in this book is an attempt to help single men deal with the issue of lust. It’s the battle of the heart and mind of men, single or otherwise, and the relative ease for many to fall into the mindset of being set on sex.
I’m always somewhat torn about books like this because on one hand they do offer real, tangible things to work on to avoid entertaining the thoughts that quickly lead to lust. There are things they recommend like training yourself to think differently and bouncing the eyes. These might be helpful to someone get over or past something momentarily. I like to call things like this training wheels, because sometimes people really need something tangible to do to distract themselves from what might turn into something worse. How many quotes and sayings do we repeat that talk about staying away from things that you know will draw you into sin? I think that is what these authors were shooting for.
On the other hand, these methods really all rely on your ability to pull yourself up by your bootstraps and work on beating the addiction. I think that only leads to moments of perceived victory rather than the real victory that Christ has provided us. There isn’t a lot of reliance upon God when you are training your mind or bouncing your eyes, is there? So it is discouraging to see something that relies on a man’s ability to work this out in his own schemes, techniques, strategies, and power – by and large.
So from my point of view, there are some good thoughts and ideas in this book, but it ultimately isn’t a book that draws us into more of a full dependence on God for victory. For that reason, I think there are probably better books to address the issue if you are looking for a Christian response to lust and pornography.
I would give it 2 out of 5 stars.
**NOTE: I received this book for free from WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group for this review.